Women in Leadership: You can’t be what you can’t see

As a female in a traditionally male-dominated industry, the presence of women in my workplace has always been important to me. I am fortunate to have graduated from a civil class with a female to male ratio of 40% and to work for an organization that hires a fairly large number of female engineers; yet I’ve still had very few opportunities to work with women in senior positions. The reality is that, while the number of women obtaining engineering degrees has been pretty steady in Canada at 17-18%, there are still very few women in senior engineering and management positions.

I’ve always been an advocate for more women in positions of leadership, but I recently had a little ‘aha!’ moment about WHY it’s so important for women to be represented at senior levels. I recently watched a great documentary on Netflix called ‘Miss Representation’. It’s about the way women are represented in the media, the effect this has on girls and women of all ages, and the importance of having female roles models and leaders in all industries to combat the misrepresentation of women. The film’s tagline, and my ‘aha!’ moment, is that you can’t be what you can’t see. It’s hard to see yourself in certain careers or positions of leadership if there are no female role models demonstrating that it’s possible.

Before I continue, I just want to acknowledge that I am writing this blog from a position of privilege. I am a white, straight, cisgender, thin, able-bodied, woman. This blog is about the importance of female roles models in leadership positions, but when I say ‘women’, I want to specifically include women of all race, size, class, and sexual orientation. I am privileged because the few female role models I do see generally look like me. I believe women of colour, fat women, transgendered women, and lesbian women (among others) face additional challenges in finding relatable female role models in their everyday lives. I hope I can draw some of these connections in how we are misrepresented in the media.

We’ve all been influenced by the media in some way or another. Magazines, tabloids, and advertisements constantly present us with these images of “perfect”, over sexualized, unattainable women. They’re designed to make us feel insecure about our bodies so that we rush out and spend money on clothing, hair products, make-up, diet plans, and even cosmetic surgery. The images we see on a daily basis create unrealistic expectations about what beauty is, negatively affecting the self-esteem and body image of young girls and women and normalizing boys and men to the sexual objectification of women.

The media places a disproportionate importance on appearance and has a huge influence on how we determine our own self worth and value and the worth and value of those around us. We’re subconsciously taught about how to perceive sex and gender, about the role we can play in the world, and about what we can be expected to accomplish based on our gender. The way we report the news and the characters we write for movies and television reinforce dated ideas about what societal roles men and women can be expected to fill and the value that they can add to the world.

Let’s start by talking about the film industry. Major blockbuster movies and box office chart toppers generally feature male protagonists and supporting male-dominated casts. There might be a few women who either play love interests or serve some role in supporting or motivating the male protagonist, but they generally don’t have a large impact on the plot. For example, in the Batman Trilogy, Rachel spends most of the first movie playing the role of ‘damsel in distress’ and in the Dark Knight, she is pretty much the only female character in the movie. Even though her presence is important to the plot, she does little to progress the story in the first half of the movie and we soon discover that her real purpose is simply to serve as motivation for the acts that will be committed by the two men in love with her in the second half of the movie. Her role only serves to further the development of the male characters. Unfortunately, movies that feature female protagonists or larger female casts are more likely to be dismissed into the category of “chick flick”, where the storyline still often focuses on the pursuit of a man. Even movies with mixed casts can be deceiving about the importance of the female characters.

A useful tool I recently discovered for examining the disparity between the roles played by male and female characters when watching movies is to use the Bechdel Test. In order to pass the Bechdel Test, the movie must contain one scene where there are two women having a conversation about anything other than a man. It doesn’t have to be a long or important scene or add any value to the movie, but it’s surprising how many films fail the test. For example, I was surprised to discover that Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows Part II, which has one of my favourite female characters, Hermione Granger, doesn’t even pass the Bechdel Test. I’m not saying it’s a good measure of what films have meaningful female characters (I still think Hermione is great), but it does highlight the absence of female to female relationships in a lot of films. It’s okay for there to be unequal numbers of men and women and movies, but over time, the number of movies featuring majority male casts has been largely disproportionate.

It seems that there is an assumption in Hollywood that both men and women are interested in watching movies about men, but only women are interested in watching movies about women. I find this sad because women are every bit as complex as men and are every bit as capable of leading a storyline that does not center on romance. It’s possible to write compelling female characters that are just as engaging as male characters and that are just as much of interest to male viewers as female viewers. Why are we only catering to half of the population when we write and produce movies?

I’m inclined to think that it might have something to do with the fact that the movie industry is almost completely dominated by men. For the majority, our film directors, producers, and writers are men and the number of meaningful (say Oscar-worthy) roles available for men far outweigh the number available for women. Men, understandably, don’t know how to write compelling female characters because they are not female. So it shouldn’t really be any great surprise that our movies and television shows are filled with male heroes in the form of doctors, lawyers, police officers, scientists, engineers, and politicians. Unfortunately, women are filling very different roles in movies and as such, we have a very different expectation about what our female characters, and by extension ourselves, can accomplish.

That’s not to say there aren’t movies and television shows with great female characters. Grey’s Anatomy has a diverse cast of female doctors, Parks and Rec has director and city council member Leslie Knope, Girls has four relatable female stars, and Orange is the New Black is a great example of the success a female creator, writer, and diverse cast of women can have. However, there is a tendency when trying to write these “strong” or “empowered” female characters to simply give them physical strengths or traditional male traits to demonstrate their power. We don’t need to adapt our female characters to the same traits as our male protagonists to create compelling and meaningful characters. Women need characters that they can relate to on television and in movies. The media has become a very important part of our culture and can influence how we relate to one another and interpret our experiences. We should be able to turn on the television and see characters that we can relate to.

We can draw a connection here by looking at the percentage of people of colour that are cast in movies. Similar to female roles, lots of movies may have one or two black actors/actresses, but the majority of the cast, and generally the protagonist, will be white. Producers love to write in that one stereotypical black, gay, or fat friend to pretend like they have a diverse cast and to get a few cheap laughs. What’s equally frustrating is that these characters are often added simply because they’re black, gay, or fat. That one quality that deviates from the norm becomes the entire essence of their character.

Melissa McCarthy and Rebel Wilson are both popular, successful actresses. I won’t pretend like I’ve seen even a portion of their movies, but in many of their roles, being fat is an important part of their character. In Bridesmaids, McCarthy’s forward approach to romance is funny because as a fat woman, we assume her prospects for love are slim and in Pitch Perfect, Wilson’s character is literally called ‘Fat Amy’. Most of the laughs they generate in these roles are directly related to the fact that they’re overweight; it becomes the dominating feature of their personality. McCarthy and Wilson are both great actresses and their comedic value shouldn’t be limited to their size. That said, I was impressed that both these characters had a lot of self-love; they don’t try to change who they are and that makes you love them too.

In the same way, women of colour are not frequently featured in roles where being black isn’t an essential part of their character. Viola Davis, Octavia Spencer, and Lupita Nyong’o are all great actresses that have been nominated for Oscars for their roles in The Help and 12 Years a Slave. But in all cases, being black was a requirement of the casting and necessary to the plot of the movie. That’s not to say the roles are bad, it’s just that we don’t see many people of colour leading movies where the character’s race is unimportant. If the protagonist’s race doesn’t matter, by default, the role generally goes to white actors.

If we move on to politics, the story is, unfortunately, more or less the same. Men dominate the political scene, shaping most of our nation’s legislature and policy; policies that affect everyone, whether male or female, black or white. There just seems to me to be something so inherently wrong that governments can meet and draft legislature that will affect the entire population, when they’re often missing representation from half of it! Even more inconceivable, is the power (predominantly white male) politicians have to dictate policies on women’s issues. Here, more than anywhere else, I believe it’s imperative to have women not just participate in the discussion, but to shape and lead the discussion.

Unfortunately, the media does us few favours when it comes to augmenting the number of women in politics. Female politicians are fighting a completely different campaign during election time and an additional set of challenges if they are elected. When Sarah Palin was selected as the republican VP nominee in the 2008 election, the media quickly framed what the dialogue surrounding her campaign would be and highly influenced how Americans would view her as a political candidate. Her political platform was of little interest to the media, who instead focused on how she dressed, how she did her hair and make-up, and how running for election might impact her family. That’s not to say no one talked about Obama’s sex appeal, but when he talked, we at least stopped and listened to what he had to say. We never questioned Obama’s ability to be both a world leader and a good father.

I’m not saying the election result should have been any different, but Sarah Palin was certainly treated differently, and taken much less seriously, for being a woman. Our news outlets like to pretend that a female politician’s appearance is somehow relevant when they should be educating us on important voting issues. How can we encourage young women to pursue careers in politics or leadership by tearing them down on national television, for reasons completely unrelated to their political policies or views?

Today our society just doesn’t seem to value or respect the female voice. Any woman who has the courage to speak out about politics or inequality knows they’re up against a media industry that cares more about their appearance than their voice and social communities that just don’t respect them. When a young girl was raped in Steubenville, reporters lamented the lost future of her rapists rather than the trauma she was experiencing from being sexually violated and the ongoing emotional pain of having to relive that trauma throughout a trial. When female blogger Anita Sarkeesian speaks out about violence against women in video games, male gaming communities attempt to silence her through intimidation and threats of harassment. And when five black American, transgender women are murdered during the first 5 weeks of 2015, it gets virtually no media attention.

These actions demonstrate to young girls and boys precisely how little we value the voices of women. How can we expect girls and women to speak out with so many people screaming at them to be silent? If we can’t be what we can’t see, then what I see is a serious lack of female role models. It can be easy to think that women have progressed so far since the days when we were forced to fight for the right to work and vote, yet on average, women are still paid less than men, promoted less than men, and generally respected less in the workplace.

I’ve often heard the argument that women simply aren’t interested in the higher paying professions and leadership positions that men traditionally hold. I’m sorry, but I’m just not buying it. Yes, modern feminism respects that you have the right to choose whether you want to focus your time and energy on pursuing your career or follow the traditional path of being a mom and homemaker. There is no right or wrong choice and women should feel comfortable and secure in choosing either path. But I just don’t buy that women are not interested in these higher paying, management positions and I think there are other factors at play in why we typically see fewer women in these positions.

First of all, there’s the fact that we make women choose. Do you want to pursue a career or do you want to pursue a family? We generally don’t put this responsibility on men and it’s very unlikely that a man’s choice to become a father will ever have any effect on the trajectory of his career; it’s assumed a man can have both. However, even if a woman has no intention of having children, her employer is more likely to be prejudiced against her. Whether subconsciously or not, when hiring and promoting women, employers often take into consideration the likelihood of having to pay for maternity leave(s) and other family related benefits and anticipate that female employees may be less dedicated to the company once they have children.

Women tend to get stuck in middle management positions and get passed over again and again for leadership positions. We tend to favour working with those that are similar or like-minded to ourselves. Since men already dominate our boardrooms, it’s easier for companies to just keep promoting men. Men and women do think and act differently; but I’m of the opinion that it would greatly benefit companies to have both perspectives at the highest levels of management.

However, I think some of the biggest challenges in climbing the career ladder up to senior management are historically ingrained gender norms and the perceptions of gender the media has instilled in us. Men have always been assured of their value to society. They have traditionally been viewed as providers and the voice of authority in family, work, and politics. Media influence teaches boys and men that their voices are valuable and deserve to be heard, whereas our society is more likely to try and silence female voices. As a result, I do think that men are more confident. They’re more willing to speak up in meetings, to put forth ideas, or directly ask for a raise or promotion. Women bring immensely important viewpoints and ideas to the table, but they’re more likely to hesitate before sharing and be judged more harshly if they fail.

We also interpret the actions of men and women very differently. I recently saw a great comic illustrating the double standard between how we interpret the same action from a man and a woman. The comic features a man asking for a raise and his employer thinking “what a go-getter”, and then a woman asking for a raise and the employer thinking “what a pushy bitch”. We respect confidence in a man, but we view a confident woman as pushy and an unconfident woman as a pushover. Those women that have made it to a leadership positions face just as much of a struggle once they get there. From what I understand, it often involves having to make sacrifices in your personal life, working twice as hard, and having to adapt your attitude and personality to that which suits the man’s world you’re immersing yourself in.

We can’t be what we can’t see. It can be hard to relate to the female characters on television because there are no women writing relatable characters. Likewise, it’s hard to envision a future for yourself in management or politics when there are few role models demonstrating that you can have that future. Let’s not make excuses for why there are so few women in leadership and let’s not take our inspiration from the media. Instead, let’s look for the already amazing role models in our lives, build them up, and then become role models ourselves.

Let’s Talk Feminism

Over the past few months I’ve been seeing more articles and blogs pop up about feminism and feminist issues. I’ve considered myself a feminist for a while now, but it’s only over the last few months that I’ve been exploring what the term actually means to me and trying to comprehend what it means to other people around me. There are a lot of questions I’ve been asking myself; what does true equality look like? How are my experiences, opportunities, and privileges different from those of my male counterparts? What is the end goal of the feminist movement? I can’t answer any of these questions of course, I’m no expert on feminism and I don’t have years of reading books or having deep discussions about it to back up my opinions. However, I think discussion and dialogue is incredibly important in the development and understanding of any issue, so I’ve decided to share my exploration in the hope of engaging you in conversation about it!

Feminism means something different to everyone and I’m sure we all have a different idea about what a truly equal society would like. There are many inequalities between the opportunities and privileges accessible to men, verses those that are accessible to women. Some inequalities are glaringly obvious, such as rape, and involve specific actions or consequences, while others are so ingrained into our culture and our way of thinking that they often go completely unnoticed. It can be easy to pass off a joke generalizing women as bad drivers or to ignore a catcall or remark about our appearance. It’s seen as acceptable that a father might work full time while the mother stays home to take of the children, but it would be pretty unconventional if the roles were reversed. We don’t often challenge these behaviours or perceptions and they have simply become a normal, acceptable part of our culture.

If the term “feminism” means something different to everyone, than associating oneself with the term “feminist” certainly does as well. Some people are perfectly happy to consider themselves feminists, while others want absolutely nothing to do with the label. Unfortunately, I think there’s a lot of negative connotations associated with the term “feminist” and with people who consider themselves one. Some people view feminists as a group of angry, bra-burning women, while others associate it as something that is just for women and not accessible to men. There’s the view that the feminist movement is a threat to men’s rights or that it somehow makes you less of a man to call yourself a feminist. Finally, some people just don’t like the use of terminology like ‘feminism’ and ‘feminist’, and feel that we should focus more on male and female rights together, rather than just on women.

This last opinion is the one that I find myself encountering most often. I know people that personally advocate for women’s rights and against issues such as the pay gap between men and women, yet are not comfortable associating with the term “feminist”. I think many people have a feeling that feminism is not inclusive of men and that as a result, it threatens their rights and liberties; that feminists are essentially sexist against men and that we should focus on promoting equal rights rather than improving women’s rights. I personally don’t agree with this viewpoint. I do want to see a world that provides equal opportunities and respect to both men and women, but in order to get there, I think we need to address the concept of male privilege. To realize that the way to equal rights is by talking about the disparities that exist between men and women and by identifying behaviours and social norms that perpetuate it.

Male privilege is a concept that is relatively new to me and I find it useful in comparing ways in which a man’s experience is likely different than a woman’s. To quote trusty old Wikipedia, “male privilege refers to the social theory which argues that men have unearned social, economic, and political advantages or rights that are granted to them solely on the basis of their sex, and which are usually denied to women.” I don’t really like the words ‘unearned’ and ‘denied’ in this definition because I don’t think this is always the case, but I do think that men often have an advantage over women or are favoured over women. The best thing I’ve read about male privilege is Peggy McIntosh’s “Male Privilege Checklist“, which goes through a list of examples in which a male might have an advantage or privilege a female wouldn’t have, such as the lower likelihood of experiencing sexual harassment in the workplace or the higher likelihood of being promoted to a senior position. You should really read it. You can also find a full discussion about male privilege here.

I find McIntosh’s list helpful in identifying cultural norms that bother me so that I can gain a better picture of what I think equality in the workplace or in the home might actually look like. There are different expectations of men and women and different standards for what is considered acceptable. Decisions and opinions are formed by comparing a woman against her male counterparts rather than on her personal merits. The defining element of male privilege (in my opinion anyways) is summed up by the final point on McIntosh’s checklist, “I have the privilege of being unaware of my male privilege.” Do many people consciously discriminate based on sex? I don’t think that they do. I’m sure that many men are selected for a job based on their competence and the fact that they were the best candidate. But I also can’t be sure that if a man is hired for a job over me, that it’s not because in the back of their mind, my employer is thinking that down the road I’m going to cost him maternity leave or that work is unlikely the be my top priority.

I took a women’s studies course last year in which we talked about how men and women face different issues and problems, making it okay to focus specifically on women’s rights, rather than on both male and female equality. Focusing on women’s rights doesn’t make men’s rights any less important, it just acknowledges that we’re different. For example, we discussed the benefits of having women-only health clinics to address health issues such as birth control, unwanted pregnancy, and abortion. Likewise, there is legislature about abortion and other women’s rights that, while it does affect men, only applies to women. The decision by a woman to get an abortion (or the decision not to) will have an impact on their counterpart, but the law surrounding the right to decide isn’t a law that will ever be exercised by a man. Therefore, when the legislature is formed, women should make up at least half, if not the majority of those that influence the decision. However, since men form the majority of elected roles, it is men who make many of the laws and decisions regarding women’s rights.

I just want to acknowledge that I realize much of my discussion revolves around feminism as it exists in the Western world. I think there is a large portion of people that are pretty indifferent to feminism; that are content with the status quo or oblivious to the divide that exists between men and women. Some see feminism as belonging to the era of women’s suffrage, when women fought for the right to vote, to work, and to earn a salary. Feminism has a very different meaning for me in 2013, but in many other countries, women are still not encouraged or permitted to work outside the home and are expected to fill traditional gender roles of homemaking and child-rearing. The opportunity to shape and influence their own future is not necessarily accessible to them.

Finally, there are those who are happy to associate with the feminist label. I’ve been seeing a lot more articles and posts lately from men who are entering the feminist discussion (see my friend Evan’s wonderful new blog and this article about being an ally to women) and I have to give them props for their sensitivity. I don’t really put that much thought into my opinions or how they are perceived because they are shaped mostly by my experiences growing up and by my experiences as a woman working in a male-dominated industry. Many of the male privileges in McIntosh’s list didn’t occur to me until the last few years and I can understand why they would be a blind spot for many men themselves. I’m sure it’s much harder to enter the feminist-sphere as a male when you don’t have the common female experiences of worrying about your body image, walking home alone at night, or being judged by your wardrobe. Either way, there are both men and women active in the fight against gender norms, I consider myself one of them and I hope you’ll join the discussion too!

Thanks for reading,

Disclaimer: this blog solely represents my own personal views. I choose to view it as a thought and learning experiment and I welcome your opinions, so long as they’re respectful.